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December 30, 2007
Jeff Pulver’s Suggested Facebook Friends Code of Conduct (v 1.2)
(the following is an update to a blog post I started back in October)
These days I am a full-time resident of Facebook. Since joining earlier this year, at the moment I have 4,267 “friends” on Facebook. And while I have not met everyone, I have had personal contact with many of them thanks to the conferences and events I have produced and attended over the years. Included in this list are also people who read my blog and with whom I’m also a friend on twitter.
As I have spent time in Facebook, I have been working on an ever evolving approach I try to follow with respect to how I interact and communicate with my friends on Facebook.
In 2007, “Friending” has become a verb. And no, I do not accept every friend invitation I receive.
And as I enter 2008, I fully expect to be making a transition from mostly meeting new people on Facebook to using Facebook to keep track of the people whom I’ve already met.
I am not in any way suggesting that the Emily Post of Facebook would endorse any of my words, nor am I suggesting anyone else follow my suggestions. But if you are new to Facebook and you are wondering how someone approaches their Facebook friendships, the following is how Jeff Pulver is currently approaching his.
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Jeff Pulver's Suggested Facebook Friends Code of Conduct: (v 1.2)
- New friends are welcome. Please don't be shy.
- Please only friend me if you are a person. Companies need not apply.
- When friending, please share our common connection if there is one.
(I understand that sometimes I am an email contact and when you group friend people it is not always possible to indicate anything. I have the same issues when adding friends from my own contact databases.)
- Please feel free to send a message, Voicemail and/or Video message at any time.
- Once you friend me, please reach out and say hello every once in awhile. I enjoy the interaction and being part of the conversation. Please invest time and create a conversation even if it is small talk.
- Please do not include me in “Chain messages” unless you know that I know everyone else who is on the message chain. While I appreciate being contacted, I prefer personal and direction interaction.
- Poking is ok. And if I poked you it was meant as a quick way of saying hi.
- Please take a look at the photos I upload and tag them when you can. And feel free to comment.
- Please don’t be offended if I don’t choose to join your group or cause or event when invited or when I leave your Facebook group.
- Since I don't bite. Please don't bite. Friends protect friends from Vampires and Werewolves.
- If you want me to try out YOUR application, please send me a message and tell me about it and tell me why YOU like it. Please don’t just click on my name and send me an invitation to use an application.
- As a friend, please make an effort to communicate with me at least once a month, when possible. Try to maintain a running dialog.
- And if you are looking for my wall, you won’t find one. At least for now. I disabled my wall because some of my “friends” were using it as an advertising platform.
Please feel free to add your own suggestions/corrections to this list
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So how do YOU approach friends on Facebook? What is YOUR Facebook Friends Code of Conduct?
Readers of my blog are invited to join me on both twitter and Facebook.
Tags: facebook, Social Media, Jeff Pulver
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Posted by jeff on December 30, 2007 09:25 AM | Permalink
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Comments
Can I borrow this for my own? It's a great set of guidelines for folks. I've been going on a Facebook diet and talk about getting out of the habit. Better I should never have gotten into it.
And be on the lookout, I will be contacting you. I have questions.
Posted by: Todd Jordan at December 31, 2007 08:16 PM
Valuing your time.
Jeff, I and I'm sure others as well, value your time and realize that any message we send you on Facebook means you taking the time to read it. When there is a real message for you and it is sent and you reply.
Should we:
a) Send a "thank you"
or
b) Value your time and not say "thank you" or "cool" or "thanks for replying" etc... I would imagine if everyone that you have given some advice or helped or answered sent you the "Thank You" message, it could mean an addittional 30-40 messages a day for you.
So when we say "Thank You" in the original message should we assume you know how much we appreciate your time?
Thanks :)
Posted by: Richard Kligman at December 31, 2007 03:41 AM
I have no idea how you manage that many friends in Facebook, but I know you do it well. Hats off to you, my friend. I do tend to resist the extras like biting, etc. Good old fashioned "hello," quick message, or even a "poke" is fine with me anytime. As always, I enjoy your photos and video posts. Happy Social Media New Year!
Posted by: Brian at December 30, 2007 11:24 AM